This week was not so productive for me. Ms Flow visited me, and most of the week went by struggling with her. I was crying like anything for the first three days, even on the smallest things that were happening around me. I know you have got nothing to do with this all, so why am I telling you this? Because I wanted to talk about something related to this, known as Pre Menstrual Syndrome (PMS) which most of us (except the ones who suffer) joke about.
There are plenty of articles related to PMS over world wide web, but the biggest problem here is not the dearth of resources but is of understanding how it can be so difficult for someone. Sometimes I really wish if I could drop a cheat sheet or a link to my family and friends that can communicate everything I wanted to say, wanted them to know and everything I need while suffering from PMS. So here is my little attempt for all you ladies out there who thinks like me and for boys who want to take extra care of their girl.
So What exactly is PMS and what are its symptoms?
PMS is a condition that affects a woman’s emotional, behavioural and physical health during certain days of the menstrual cycle, generally just before the menses. It usually happens within four days of the start of the menstrual cycle, and for some, it may begin even before that.
There is a list of behavioural and emotional symptoms that occur due to the increased level of estrogen and progesterone. Psychological symptoms like food cravings or some may lose their appetite, depressed mood, tension, anxiety, anger, social withdrawal. Physical symptoms like joint or muscle pain, headache, fatigue, back pain, bloating, breast tenderness, acne, constipation.
Physical and emotional changes can vary in an individual from just slightly noticeable all the way to intense. Like in my case, I have severe joint pain, I feel tired and sleepy all the time, and when I am up, I have extreme mood swings with a depressed feeling. I have tears in my eyes for the smallest things. Chocolate, coffee and hot water bag are my best friends during that time. But for some, the symptoms are extreme enough to make them cripple; this condition is called Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). This condition is manifolds of PMS.
If somebody has severe symptoms, then they must visit doctor others can eat healthily, drink plenty of fluids, exercise to decrease bloating, meditate, take proper sleep and avoid alcohol and smokes to deal with it. Things like adding omega-3 fats, calcium and vitamin B to the diet can also prove to be beneficial.
Whatever we have read so far is no big deal. You have got enough knowledge, but my point here is to make you understand that the struggle is REAL !! It is not a sorry excuse for a bad mood. It is the time that you need to be more understanding and comforting to your woman.
It might be the time when your woman is most sensitive and vulnerable, but you got to handle with love, care and patience. She might be getting angry; please refrain from doing the same. Do not argue, instead, treat them with a cup of ice cream or their favourite chocolate bars. Maintain a period journal to understand her mood swings during the menstrual cycle. One such fantastic app is “Clue”.
Most of the time, our own family and friends fail to understand and usually, the emotional support from them is what is required the most. I am in no way saying we, women are not capable of taking care and managing stress but who doesn’t love If treated with extra love. What women don’t need is to be avoided, made to feel “irrational” or “crazy” or made fun of PMS.
Share your story of PMS in the comments section or here. I would love to hear from you all.